Rewrite the Mother Code with Dr. Gertrude Lyons
Podcast Description:
Mothering isn’t just a role — it’s an energy, a transformative experience that transcends traditional definitions. Whether as a noun, a verb, or a profound force, mothering is accessible to everyone who embraces it. Dr. Gertrude Lyons’ groundbreaking work celebrates this essence, providing the tools and support to lead more authentic, joyful, and fulfilling lives — whether you’re seeking greater intimacy, more job satisfaction, or something else, you’re in the right place. Dive into this revolution with the Rewrite the Mother Code podcast and awaken the mothering spirit within you.
On Rewrite the Mother Code, Dr. Gertrude explores women’s development, parenting, self-love, and relationship fulfillment through storytelling, interviews with experts, and conversations with community members. Dr. Gertrude is having conversations about motherhood and mothering that no one else is having. She brings herself and her guests into alignment through the transformational opportunity in mothering.
If you’re curious about what embarking on the journey of Rewriting YOUR Mother Code could feel like, interested in joining a community of open-hearted women, and learning to celebrate what makes you you, you’ve come to the right place.
Topic Sub-Category:
Self-Improvement
Additional Insights:
The name Rewrite the Mother Code reflects its core mission: exploring, challenging, and rewriting the internal and cultural “mother codes” (beliefs, expectations, norms) that shape how we mother (ourselves, others, life).
The podcast doesn’t limit “mothering” to biological motherhood—it frames it as an energy or force that can show up in many areas: careers, relationships, self-care, creative work.
A recurring theme is self-mothering: nurturing oneself, tending to inner emotional life, dismantling generational or societal conditioning.
Emotional intelligence, naming and working with feelings like fear, hurt, anger, sadness, joy is often woven into her framework.
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Recent Episode Notes:
Healing the Mother Wound: Transformation and Trust with Tracy Ftacek (Sept 9, 2025)
Explores letting go of perfectionism, releasing hustle culture, and stepping into a life of ease and alignment.
Tracy shares her journey from Alaska to entrepreneurship, the identity shift after selling her company, and how meditation & manifestation became emotional anchors.
Includes a discussion of a water-birthing ceremony as a turning point in healing her mother wound.
Whole-Person Healing: Dr. Mary Ella Wood on Integrative Medicine and New Motherhood (Sept 1, 2025)
Dr. Wood (physician & integrative medicine director) shares her transition from surgery to holistic medicine.
She opens up about pregnancy, navigating complications, postpartum life, breastfeeding struggles, and how her motherhood journey reshaped her medical philosophy.
Building, Breaking, and Becoming: Lessons from Ireland (Aug 25, 2025)
A solo episode by Dr. Lyons giving a personal life update: the challenges of home building, retreat planning, and caring for her aging mother.
She reflects on resilience, surrender, and how mothering herself becomes more important during transitions and chaos.
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Mothering isn’t just a role—it’s an energy, a transformative experience that transcends traditional definitions. Whether as a noun, a verb, or a profound force, mothering is accessible to everyone who embraces it. Dr. Gertrude Lyons’ groundbreaking work celebrates this essence, providing the tools and support to lead more authentic, joyful, and fulfilling lives – whether you’re seeking greater intimacy, more job satisfaction, or something else, you’re in the right place. Dive into this revolution with the Rewrite the Mother Code podcast and awaken the mothering spirit within you.
On Rewrite the Mother Code, Dr. Gertrude explores women’s development, parenting, self-love, and relationship fulfillment through storytelling, interviews with experts, and conversations with community members. Dr. Gertrude is having conversations about motherhood and mothering that no one else is having. She brings herself and her guests into alignment through the transformational opportunity in mothering.
If you’re curious about what embarking on the journey of Rewriting YOUR Mother Code could feel like, interested in joining a community of open-hearted women, and learning to celebrate what makes you you, you’ve come to the right place.
In this episode of Rewrite the Mother Code, I’m joined by Cari Fund, writer, podcast host, mother, and author of Autopsy of a Good Girl. Through humor, honesty, and deeply personal stories, Cari explores what it means to be a “good girl,” how that identity is often shaped by childhood conditioning, and what happens when the roles we learned to play no longer serve us.
Cari shares how people-pleasing, perfectionism, and constantly reading the emotions of others became ways to navigate a difficult childhood. She reflects on the coping mechanisms that followed, including body image struggles, bulimia, alcohol, and workaholism, as well as the childhood diary that helped her recognize how much she had learned to hide her true feelings. We also explore three pivotal moments in her life: choosing to stay with her father at 14, becoming estranged from her mother at 31, and becoming a mother at 36. Each brought its own lessons about boundaries, identity, and the patterns we carry into our relationships.
Together, we discuss the grief that can come with recognizing what we didn’t receive as children, the complicated process of setting boundaries with family, and the work of breaking generational cycles as parents. Cari shares what she wants her children to know about self-worth, why we don’t need to feel ashamed of the ways we learned to survive, and how sitting in silence, journaling, and listening to our intuition can help us reconnect with ourselves. Her story is a reminder that healing isn’t about becoming someone new to please others; it’s about meeting ourselves more honestly and choosing how we want to live and love.
You’ll also hear about:
- (04:07) What being a “good girl” really means, and how shame, silence, and labels can shape our identity.
- (07:10) How people-pleasing, perfectionism, and shapeshifting can become childhood survival strategies.
- (08:01) The coping mechanisms Cari developed, including body image struggles, bulimia, alcohol, and workaholism.
- (12:20) Learning to keep family secrets and the impact of being told what a good daughter should be.
- (16:09) Finding a childhood diary and recognizing the difference between the story she told about her family and what she really felt.
- (19:34) Three pivotal moments: choosing to stay with her father at 14, becoming estranged from her mother at 31, and becoming a mother at 36.
- (28:32) The grief of acknowledging what was missing in childhood, setting boundaries, and navigating estrangement without treating it as a one-size-fits-all answer.
- (37:42) What Cari wants her children to understand about self-worth, love, and not having to earn their value through achievement.
- (40:16) Simple ways to begin questioning the identity we’ve inherited, including silence, journaling, and honest self-reflection.
- (42:53) Why we don’t need to add shame to the coping mechanisms that helped us survive.
- (43:24) What becomes possible when the “good girl” identity falls away and we begin to meet ourselves with confidence, love, and respect.
- (46:40) Self-mothering, honoring our journey, and learning to trust our intuition.
Don’t miss this powerful conversation about breaking free from inherited expectations, reclaiming your voice, and choosing a more authentic way of living and loving.
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