Love and Trauma the Real Deal
Love and Trauma the Real Deal
Podcast Description
Love and Trauma: The Real Deal is where real talk meets real love. Danielle’s on a mission to explore how trauma messes with adult relationships and to help couples stop the madness with honest, no-BS tools that actually work. Drawing from her own 14-year marriage (yes, she’s been through it), Danielle shows couples how to heal, connect, and—wait for it—thrive together.No sugar-coating, no fluff—just real solutions to the tough stuff. If you’re ready to make your relationship better, tune in. Danielle’s got the tools, the stories, and the sass to get you there.About Your Host: Danielle Sebastian is an expert in identifying and overcoming trauma in relationships. She is the bestselling author of Resilient Wives: A Guide for Wives Supporting Their Husband Through Childhood Trauma Recovery and has helped hundreds of women navigate and repair their relationships while supporting their partners through trauma recovery.She is the founder of WifeCARE and host of the TV show Love and Trauma: The Real Deal, where she explores how trauma affects adult relationships and provides practical, same-day strategies for creating more peace, hope, and happiness.In 2013, Danielle’s marriage hit rock bottom when her husband revealed a painful history of childhood abuse. While this revelation explained their struggles, it didn’t fix them—it sent them on a rollercoaster of emotional highs and devastating lows for the next nine years. She tried everything to bridge the gap between them, only to feel like nothing worked. Determined to find real answers, she discovered that traditional relationship advice fails when deep trauma is involved. Through years of research, she developed her signature "CARE" framework, a practical system that helps couples move from walking on eggshells to healing together.Now, happily married for 14 years and a mother of two, Danielle has dedicated her life to helping women reclaim their peace, happiness, and relationships—proving that love can be stronger than the past.LEARN More About Danielle: https://www.daniellesebastian.comFOLLOW Danielle on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daniellesebastian_wifecareFREE Download: Survivor's Playbook for Partners: https://www.daniellesebastian.com/survivorsplaybookFREE...
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Content Themes
The podcast focuses on themes surrounding trauma, personal healing, and relationship dynamics, with episodes that delve into topics like childhood trauma's impact on love, coping mechanisms in relationships, and the journey from survival to emotional wellness. Notable episodes include discussions on the healing power of vulnerability and recounting transformative personal stories.
Love and Trauma: The Real Deal is where real talk meets real love. Danielle’s on a mission to explore how trauma messes with adult relationships and to help couples stop the madness with honest, no-BS tools that actually work. Drawing from her own 14-year marriage (yes, she’s been through it), Danielle shows couples how to heal, connect, and—wait for it—thrive together.
No sugar-coating, no fluff—just real solutions to the tough stuff. If you’re ready to make your relationship better, tune in. Danielle’s got the tools, the stories, and the sass to get you there.
About Your Host: Danielle Sebastian is an expert in identifying and overcoming trauma in relationships. She is the bestselling author of Resilient Wives: A Guide for Wives Supporting Their Husband Through Childhood Trauma Recovery and has helped hundreds of women navigate and repair their relationships while supporting their partners through trauma recovery.
She is the founder of WifeCARE and host of the TV show Love and Trauma: The Real Deal, where she explores how trauma affects adult relationships and provides practical, same-day strategies for creating more peace, hope, and happiness.
In 2013, Danielle’s marriage hit rock bottom when her husband revealed a painful history of childhood abuse. While this revelation explained their struggles, it didn’t fix them—it sent them on a rollercoaster of emotional highs and devastating lows for the next nine years. She tried everything to bridge the gap between them, only to feel like nothing worked. Determined to find real answers, she discovered that traditional relationship advice fails when deep trauma is involved. Through years of research, she developed her signature “CARE” framework, a practical system that helps couples move from walking on eggshells to healing together.
Now, happily married for 14 years and a mother of two, Danielle has dedicated her life to helping women reclaim their peace, happiness, and relationships—proving that love can be stronger than the past.
LEARN More About Danielle: https://www.daniellesebastian.com
FOLLOW Danielle on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daniellesebastian_wifecare
FREE Download: Survivor’s Playbook for Partners: https://www.daniellesebastian.com/survivorsplaybook
GRAB Danielle’s Book: Resilient Wives: https://www.daniellesebastian.com/resilientwivesbook
How to Save Your Marriage When You’re the Only One Trying (Married to a Childhood Trauma Survivor)
I was the only one trying to save my marriage. And for a long time, I was doing it in the exact way that was pushing my husband further away and burying me in the process. This is my last episode of the show, so I am leaving you with everything. The whole story of how my marriage unraveled, what was really happening underneath his silence and his control, and the three moves that finally turned it around. Moves you can start tonight, on your own, without one word of cooperation from him. If you are married to a childhood trauma survivor, if you feel like you are walking on eggshells in your own home, and if you are the only one still fighting for this, watch this all the way through. One person going full force is enough to start the shift. I am proof, and so is a woman you will meet in this episode. Your first step is small and it is free. Take the assessment below to find out what is really going on in your marriage, so you can stop guessing and start with the right move.
Watch full episode: How to Save Your Marriage When You’re the Only One Trying (Married to a Childhood Trauma Survivor)
Take the free assessment: https://www.daniellesebastian.com/find-your-pattern You do not have to lose yourself to love him through this. Chapters
- 0:00 The dinner that turns into a fight
- 3:00 Why I am leaving you everything
- 4:30 How my marriage unraveled
- 9:45 “Why me, when he is the one with the problem?”
- 12:00 What is really happening in his nervous system
- 16:00 The three moves you can make tonight
- 18:00 Step 1: Put your shield up (a breath to do with me)
- 21:30 Step 2: Stop chasing, run the P.A.U.S.E.
- 27:30 Step 3: Take yourself back
- 32:00 Heather: the only one trying
- 36:30 Do you want this more than being right
- 38:00 Where to start
- 39:30 The one line I want you to carry
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