Transforming Us
Transforming Us
Podcast Description
Redeeming Relationship Patterns to Find Security and Wholeness
Join Jess Vangsnes and Tamara Brown, trauma-informed relationship coaches and longtime friends, as they explore the journey of transforming your life and relationships. In a world where many feel overwhelmed and disconnected in painful relationships, this podcast aims to illuminate the path to breaking free from toxic patterns by using two systems that are highly
effective for transformation in relationships: The Enneagram and Attachment Theory.
Together, these ladies have a combined 200+ hours of coach training around trauma, Attachment Theory, and the Enneagram in relationships, along with Gottman marriage workshops and parenting support.
"Transforming Us" delves into the essentials of cultivating compassion and forging authentic connections while understanding your negative patterns. With resources rooted in understanding your core God-created self through tools like the Enneagram, listeners will discover how to earn secure attachments with others.
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Content Themes
The podcast focuses on breaking toxic relationship patterns using the Enneagram and Attachment Theory, covering topics like cultivating compassion, understanding negative patterns, and trauma-informed approaches, with episodes exemplifying these themes, such as exploring self-reflection and building secure attachments.
Redeeming Relationship Patterns to Find Security and Wholeness
Join Jess Vangsnes and Tamara Brown, trauma-informed relationship coaches and longtime friends, as they explore the journey of transforming your life and relationships. In a world where many feel overwhelmed and disconnected in painful relationships, this podcast aims to illuminate the path to breaking free from toxic patterns by using two systems that are highly
effective for transformation in relationships: The Enneagram and Attachment Theory.
Together, these ladies have a combined 200+ hours of coach training around trauma, Attachment Theory, and the Enneagram in relationships, along with Gottman marriage workshops and parenting support.
“Transforming Us” delves into the essentials of cultivating compassion and forging authentic connections while understanding your negative patterns. With resources rooted in understanding your core God-created self through tools like the Enneagram, listeners will discover how to earn secure attachments with others.
Can we really find true rest when our internal world feels just as chaotic as the world around us? In Part 1 of this deeply grounding conversation, we sit down with Kaylene Derksen to explore what it actually means to tend to our inner life. As a trauma-informed spiritual director and the President of the Soul Care Institute, Kaylene helps us all move past the frantic pace of modern culture to cultivate sustainable, life-giving rhythms.
We often treat our spiritual life as just one piece of a busy calendar, but Kaylene reminds us that our soul isn’t a separate category—it is our whole self. Together, we dive into how moving through loss can awaken our inner life, why technology leaves us feeling so fragmented, and how ancient practices like hospitality, community, and the intentional art of retreat can restore our sense of internal safety with ourselves, others and Jesus.
If you are feeling hurried, exhausted, or longing for a deeper connection with God, this episode is a gentle invitation to slow down, disengage from the noise, and discover how soul care in community serves as the ultimate catalyst for holistic transformation.
🌱 3 Main Things You Will Hear About
- A Journey into Soul Care Leadership: How Kaylene stepped into leading the Soul Care Institute, the profound role of spiritual mentorship, and the task of carrying forward the rich legacy of teachers like Dallas Willard and Steve Smith.
- The Soul as Your “Whole” Self: Why spiritual formation isn’t just an item on a checklist, but a holistic journey toward internal integration, safety, and addressing the fragmentation caused by modern culture.
- The Healing Power of Sacred Spaces: How intentional hospitality, shared community, and the practical art of pulling away for a retreat can uniquely awaken the inner life and deepen your connection with God.
Kaylene Derksen is a trauma-informed spiritual director and the President of the Soul Care Institute. With decades of ministry experience spanning youth pastoring, worship leadership, and multicultural missions both in the U.S. and in Germany, Kaylene’s work is rooted in a deep commitment to helping leaders attend to the movements of their inner life, cultivate sustainable rhythms, and grow in awareness of God’s presence in everyday experience.
✨ Memorable Quotes
“Our soul is our whole, not just a piece of us.”
“Wholeness is what God designed us to live in.”
“Community is where the divine and the miraculous happen.”
🔗 Connect & Resources
- Learn More: Visit SoulCareInstitute.com to explore retreats, 2027 cohorts, and training.
- Get in Touch: Reach out to Kaylene directly at [email protected].
- Recommended Reading: Dive deeper into the foundations of spiritual formation with the teachings of Steve Smith and the works of Dallas Willard (such as The Divine Conspiracy or Renovation of the Heart).
Discover more about our coaching and resources at our website transformingus.org. Lots of FREE guides and assessments for your journey. Do you need help understanding your patterns? Book your FREE 30 min discovery call today! Go to Connect.
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