This Is Not What I Had Planned
This Is Not What I Had Planned
Podcast Description
Join mother-son duo Carolyn Tate and Connor Radford for the conversations you wish you could have about life in a queer and neurodiverse family. No sugar-coating, no BS - just real talk about gender, identity and mental health, plus practical advice for any families still trying to figure this stuff out.Whether you're questioning, supporting someone who is, or just trying to understand - this is your space to have some real chats, find your people, and know you're not the only one doing life a little bit differently.Got a question you want us to answer? Email us at [email protected]
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Content Themes
The podcast covers themes of gender identity, mental health, and family support, with episodes discussing topics such as the realities of medical transition, dating as a trans person, and navigating bullying, offering real-life insights and practical guidance for families and allies of the queer community.
Join mother-son duo Carolyn Tate and Connor Radford for the conversations you wish you could have about life in a queer and neurodiverse family. No sugar-coating, no BS – just real talk about gender, identity and mental health, plus practical advice for any families still trying to figure this stuff out.
Whether you’re questioning, supporting someone who is, or just trying to understand – this is your space to have some real chats, find your people, and know you’re not the only one doing life a little bit differently.
Got a question you want us to answer? Email us at [email protected]
Here’s your podcast summary in the established format:
Ever wondered what questions you can and can’t ask about trans people? In this episode, Connor and Carolyn tackle the most common FAQs they get asked – from bathroom etiquette to dead names, from medical costs to finding good doctors.
They share honest answers about the practicalities: what happens when you use the wrong pronouns (spoiler: you won’t go to jail), how to handle running into old friends, and whether you need medical treatment to “qualify” as trans. Plus, they dive into the trickier territory of enjoying art from problematic creators and why punching down isn’t actually funny.
Quick Wisdom
If you’re curious about trans people: Ask yourself if it’s actually your business first. Some questions (like dead names) are generally off-limits, whilst others depend on your relationship and the setting. When in doubt, follow their lead and remember that trans people are just trying to live their lives like everyone else.
If you’re supporting someone who’s trans: You will mess up pronouns sometimes – just apologise briefly and move on without making it about you. Focus on finding community resources and trust your gut when choosing healthcare providers. And remember, whether someone’s trans identity is “just a phase” doesn’t matter – supporting them always does.
Need support? Here are some great Australian resources:
- Open Doors Youth Service (Brisbane): https://opendoors.net.au – includes Jelly Beans support group for trans people
- Rainbow Health Australia: https://rainbowhealthaustralia.org.au/research-resources
- Transcend Australia: https://transcendaus.org
- PFLAG Australia: https://pflagaustralia.org.au (for families and friends)
- Switchboard Victoria: https://switchboard.org.au (national LGBTIQA+ helpline)
Running time: 33 minutes
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