Ambitious Dads
Ambitious Dads
Podcast Description
Fatherhood cracked me open in ways I never expected — and showed me how unprepared most of us are for the emotional work it demands. After learning I couldn’t be a biological father, I wrestled early with the fear that I might screw up my kids before they even existed — a feeling every dad, in one way or another, eventually comes to know. The Ambitious Dads Podcast is where we stop winging it and start talking — about balancing endless competing priorities like work, kids, partners (sex — yeah, right!), self-care, and finances; about the emotions that hit daily — guilt, stress, fear, fatigue, love — and about the quiet doubts that keep us up at night. We’ll get vulnerable. We’ll get honest. And yes, we’ll end every episode with a ridiculous poop story, because if fatherhood teaches you anything, it’s how to laugh while cleaning up disasters.
Hosted by Jeff Hittner. Email Jeff with ideas for future episodes: [email protected]
Podcast Insights
Content Themes
The podcast focuses on themes related to fatherhood, mental health, work-life balance, and emotional intelligence with episodes exploring personal stories like navigating the guilt of missed opportunities, balancing professional ambitions with family responsibilities, and discussing the joys and challenges of parenthood through a light-hearted lens, like sharing amusing parenting mishaps.
Fatherhood cracked me open in ways I never expected — and showed me how unprepared most of us are for the emotional work it demands. After learning I couldn’t be a biological father, I wrestled early with the fear that I might screw up my kids before they even existed — a feeling every dad, in one way or another, eventually comes to know. The Ambitious Dads Podcast is where we stop winging it and start talking — about balancing endless competing priorities like work, kids, partners (sex — yeah, right!), self-care, and finances; about the emotions that hit daily — guilt, stress, fear, fatigue, love — and about the quiet doubts that keep us up at night. We’ll get vulnerable. We’ll get honest. And yes, we’ll end every episode with a ridiculous poop story, because if fatherhood teaches you anything, it’s how to laugh while cleaning up disasters.
Ranked in the Top 10% of all podcasts globally. Hosted by Jeff Hittner. Email Jeff with ideas for future episodes: [email protected]
For the first time on the Ambitious Dads Podcast, Jeff Hittner hands over the microphone.
Eighteen months after his marriage ended, Jeff asks his friend, Ambitious Dads’ very first guest Robert Mulhall, to interview him about a part of his life he hasn’t spoken about publicly until now. It’s a conversation about what came after his lifelong vision of family was altered: the fear of what separation might do to his boys, the loss of the family he thought he was building, learning to co-parent after no longer being partners, and figuring out who he is during the weeks his children aren’t with him.
Jeff opens up about the shame he still carries around divorce, the support system he deliberately built when his ex-wife moved out, the surprising joys of parenting his boys alone, and why 18 months later he doesn’t think separation simply “gets easier.” It evolves.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
[02:00] The two things Jeff felt he was losing weren’t only his marriage: they were his identity and the vision he’d carried his entire life of what his family would look like.
[05:30] How Jeff and his ex-wife prepared their young boys for the separation, including therapy, a carefully planned conversation, two nearby homes, and an intentional transition into 50/50 parenting.
[11:00] Putting the kids first sometimes meant slowing his own healing and asking one question before communicating with his ex: What actually needs to be said for the sake of our children?
[14:00] A monthly two-hour beach walk became an unexpectedly powerful co-parenting practice for handling the conversations they still disagree about.
[18:00] The hardest day of the week is still the day Jeff hands his boys over, and the empty apartment afterward has forced him to confront who he is when he isn’t actively parenting.
[24:00] The shame underneath divorce: not simply “my marriage ended,” but the much harder fear, “Did I fail my children?”
[30:00] How seemingly small language choices can keep children from feeling responsible for a parent’s sadness or guilty for missing the other parent.
[34:00] The unexpected gift of solo parenting: clearer priorities, deeper confidence as a dad, and stretches of completely undivided time with his boys.
[37:00] Why being committed to a healthy co-parenting relationship doesn’t mean abandoning boundaries that protect your own healing.
[39:00] Jeff’s advice to parents in the thick of separation: deliberately build a support system, stop grading your healing week by week, and don’t force yourself to solve what life will look like years from now.
[44:00] Sometimes crying doesn’t mean you’re going backward. Sometimes you’re simply sad, and sadness needs somewhere to leave the body.
Listen to the full episode for an honest conversation about separation, co-parenting, identity, grief, and building a different kind of family without giving up on being the father you want to be.
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