ADHD Realities
ADHD Realities
Podcast Description
Welcome to ADHD Realities , the podcast where ADHD and sexuality collide in the most empowering, brain friendly way possible. Hosted by Sexologist, Certified Sex Therapist, and Psychotherapist Leann Borneman, this space is all about unmasking, unlearning, and unleashing your full neurodivergent self, in and out of the bedroom.
We live in a world built for neurotypicals, and that narrative has been bringing you down for way too long. Here, we challenge those norms, call out the shame they create, and replace them with tools and truths that actually work for your beautifully wired brain.
If you’ve ever felt like your ADHD made intimacy, communication, or self-worth harder, you’re not alone, and you’re definitely not broken. This podcast gives you the full lens, psychological, relational, and sexual, to finally understand your experiences through the ADHD perspective you should’ve had all along.
It’s time to stop people pleasing, start permission giving, and take up space, authentically, awkwardly, and unapologetically..
DISCLAIMER:
This podcast is for educational purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy or professional support.
Podcast Insights
Content Themes
The podcast explores topics like ADHD, sexuality, intimacy, and self-compassion, with episodes addressing themes such as the impact of ADHD on self-pleasure, nutrition myths related to ADHD, yoni massage, and the nuances of hypersexuality, aiming to provide listeners with both scientific insights and relatable stories.
Welcome to ADHD Realities , the podcast where ADHD and sexuality collide in the most empowering, brain friendly way possible. Hosted by Clinical Sexologist, Certified Sex Therapist, and Psychotherapist Dr. Leann Borneman, this space is all about unmasking, unlearning, and unleashing your full neurodivergent self, in and out of the bedroom.
We live in a world built for neurotypicals, and that narrative has been bringing you down for way too long. Here, we challenge those norms, call out the shame they create, and replace them with tools and truths that actually work for your beautifully wired brain.
If you’ve ever felt like your ADHD made intimacy, communication, or self-worth harder, you’re not alone, and you’re definitely not broken. This podcast gives you the full lens, psychological, relational, and sexual, to finally understand your experiences through the ADHD perspective you should’ve had all along.
It’s time to stop people pleasing, start permission giving, and take up space, authentically, awkwardly, and unapologetically..
DISCLAIMER:
This podcast is for educational purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy or professional support.
In this episode, I’m joined by Caitlin V, sex and relationship coach, researcher, and host of Good Sex, for a conversation that is giving male pleasure the nuance it deserves.
We unpack why so many men experience sex as pressure instead of pleasure and how performance anxiety shows up as premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation, or complete shutdown, often without anyone naming what’s happening.
This isn’t a “just relax” or “take a pill” conversation.
We talk about:
Why performance anxiety is less about control and more about tension—physical, emotional, relational, and neurological
How porn, cultural scripts, and silence around male pleasure shape insecurity and self-monitoring
Why many men are hyper-focused on their partner’s experience while completely disconnected from their own bodies
The role of breath, pacing, communication, laughter, and nervous system regulation in sexual control
How ADHD can complicate arousal, stimulation, and orgasm—for better and worse
Where premature ejaculation and delayed ejaculation may be adaptive responses
Why male pleasure is culturally minimized while male performance is overemphasized
We also dive deep into Erotic Blueprints and how naming arousal styles can radically shift shame into curiosity, creativity, and agency.
This episode is for:
Men who feel like sex has become a test they keep failing
Partners who don’t understand why “trying harder” makes things worse
Clinicians and educators who want a more humane, body-based framework for male sexuality
Anyone ready to stop treating sex like a machine problem and start understanding it as a whole-person experience
If you’ve ever wondered why sex feels harder instead of more connected—or why no one ever gave you the blueprint—this conversation is for you.
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