Say More with Brooke Lyons
Say More with Brooke Lyons
Podcast Description
"Say More with Brooke Lyons" is the podcast where we go off-script. Actress & writer Brooke Lyons sits down with artists, thinkers, and healers to explore what’s real when the roles we play—on stage or in life—start to feel too small. These are honest conversations about change, identity, and the quiet courage it takes to live unscripted. brookelyons.substack.com
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The podcast explores themes of identity, personal transformation, and the courage to live authentically, with episodes like The Intersection of Astrology & Business featuring discussions on astrocartography and holistic practices. The focus areas include the blending of spirituality with practical life decisions, the intricacies of personal growth, and understanding the self beyond societal scripts.
“Say More with Brooke Lyons” is the podcast where we go off-script. Actress & writer Brooke Lyons sits down with artists, thinkers, and healers to explore what’s real when the roles we play—on stage or in life—start to feel too small. These are honest conversations about change, identity, and the quiet courage it takes to live unscripted.
Welcome to Say More, the podcast where we go beyond the performance.
In this series, I sit down with creators, healers, and thought leaders to explore how they navigate life’s crossroads—especially when the old scripts no longer serve.
Today’s guest is Dr. Noelle Santorelli—psychologist, trauma specialist, and the voice behind one of the most honest conversations happening online around Mean Girl Mom culture and relational aggression. If you’ve ever felt the chill of the silent treatment at school drop-off or the covert cruelty inside a so-called sisterhood, this one’s for you.
We talk about what relational aggression really looks like among adults, why this behavior spikes in high-performing communities, and how to break the cycle before it reaches our kids. Noelle shares her framework for setting low-lift boundaries, naming toxicity without shame, and raising emotionally intelligent children by modeling authentic relationships ourselves.
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Connect with Noelle
Instagram: @drnoellesantorelli
Connect with Brooke
Instagram: @brookielyons
Substack: We Need to Talk About
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Key Themes
* Understanding relational aggression in adult communities
* Why Mean Mom behavior isn’t just petty—it’s psychological
* The covert ways parents shape their kids’ social dynamics
* Scarcity mentality in high-achieving environments
* The myth of “being nice” and the power of authentic boundaries
* How to break cycles of emotional harm—without losing your center
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Chapters
00:00 Mean Mom Culture: The Personal Wake-Up Call
06:03 From Trauma Work to Toxic Systems
09:05 What Is Relational Aggression, Really?
12:20 Why This Behavior Spikes in Motherhood
17:01 Scarcity, Control, and Social Hierarchies
21:11 How It Impacts Our Children—Overtly and Covertly
29:19 What to Do When You Can’t Walk Away
31:34 Recognizing When You’re Playing Along
34:50 The Art of Disrupting the Cycle Gently
36:24 Where Do We Draw the Line?
40:17 Authenticity ≠ Rudeness
43:20 Acceptance as a Nervous System Reset
47:01 Why Pain Is Inevitable—but Suffering Isn’t
51:35 Affluence, Anxiety, and the Pressure to Perform
53:23 Three Tools to Break the Cycle
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Resources
* Follow Noelle on Instagram for tools, insights, and upcoming guides
* We discussed Jennifer Wallace’s book Never Enough (on pressure, performance, and parenting)
* Noelle recommended the book Danielle Bayard Jackson’s book Fighting for Our Friendships
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Hosted by Brooke Lyons
Actress, writer, mother, mystic, and voice behindSay More—a podcast that explores identity, reinvention, and what happens when you stop performing and start telling the truth.
Get full access to We Need to Talk About… with Brooke Lyons at brookelyons.substack.com/subscribe
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