In this episode, Drew and Steve dive deep into the dynamics of false and unwanted identities that emerge from core fears—failure, unworthiness, and the need for love. They explore how these fears shape reactive behaviors like fight, flight, and tend-and-befriend responses, drawing on neuroscience, Positive Intelligence (Shirzad Chamine), and leadership models like the Leadership Circle and DISC.

The conversation weaves through practical insights on how these false identities impact personal growth and leadership, including the role of the inner critic (or “Judge”), survival mechanisms, and the stress-driven tendencies of high performers. Drew shares brain science analogies (human vs. rabbit brain), real-world coaching experiences, and creative strategies like naming inner saboteurs to create psychological distance. Together, they emphasize the importance of mindfulness, internal safety, and reclaiming identity from external validation.