Episode 22 — You’re Doing a Lot — But Is It Working?

In this episode of Feelings You Can Trust, we’re talking about prioritized action — and the self-awareness required to admit when our actions don’t actually support the life we say we want.

This conversation is about honesty, alignment, and recognizing when we’re staying busy to avoid discomfort rather than moving with intention. We explore how priorities are revealed through action (not intention), why distraction can feel productive, and how momentum is created when your behavior finally matches your vision.

We also discuss the difference between intentional stillness and immobilization, why growth isn’t a dramatic leap but a slow-moving river, and how to assess your daily actions without shame.

In this episode, we cover:

* The difference between doing things and taking prioritized action

* How your visualization reveals your real priorities

* Why some actions feel productive but miss the “bullseye”

* When distractions act as emotional security blankets

* Intentional stillness vs. fear-based avoidance

* Why momentum only comes from aligned action

* Learning through action instead of rumination

This episode is an invitation to stop judging yourself — and start telling yourself the truth.

⏱️ EPISODE 22 TIMESTAMPS

00:00 — Welcome back + holiday reflections01:30 — Panic attacks returning & listening to the body04:40 — Understanding anxiety beyond intellectual awareness07:23 — School, injustice, and nervous system overwhelm10:25 — Regulation, sustainability, and stress hormones12:30 — Accepting long-term support & therapy13:25 — Reading updates & book club interest18:03 — Listener letters reminder19:15 — FYCT framework refresher19:52 — Step four: taking prioritized action21:16 — The difference between action and aligned action22:14 — How visualization reveals true priorities24:10 — When priorities and behavior don’t match26:03 — Self-awareness without shame26:33 — Stillness as an intentional action28:50 — Growth as a river, not a leap34:00 — The bullseye metaphor: action vs. distraction36:11 — Distractions as comfort and security37:15 — Learning through action, not rumination39:00 — When action feels triggering40:05 — Final thoughts + see you next episode

⚠️ DISCLAIMER

The perspectives shared in this episode are based on personal experience, reflection, and ongoing education. I am not a licensed therapist, and nothing discussed in this podcast should be considered medical, clinical, or legally binding advice. Please seek support from a licensed mental health professional for guidance specific to your individual needs.

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