In this second episode of the Guilty Parent Club, Dr. Jo Mueller guides us through the psychological science behind parenting stress, guilt, and self-doubt. Following our introduction to the 6P key framework in the first podcast, this episode unpacks the ‘why’ behind our parenting behaviours and reactions.

Dr. Mueller paints a vivid picture of typical parenting struggles, capturing how we can find ourselves entangled in cycles of stress and reactivity. She delves into the brain’s functioning during stressful moments, explaining how the prefrontal cortex and limbic system interplay to create what’s known as threat mode – all too familiar territory for any parent who’s found themselves triggered by their child.

The episode discusses the impact of becoming a parent on our brain’s structure and activity, enhancing our empathy and guilt, whilst also addressing how guilt and shame manifest in relation to our parenting identity.

Dr. Mueller assures us that it’s not our fault our brains work this way, but there are effective strategies to tackle these emotional cycles. Tune in to understand more about why we feel the way we do as parents – and rest assured, you’re not alone. In the following episodes, we will explore the 6P keys and how they can help break these cycles step by step.

For a visual representation of the stress and guilt cycle, please see this file: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1R6XVeqNem2epI_KAjek13Wm6ZOXXbwm2/view?usp=sharing

Whether you’re a regular listener or a newcomer to the club, this episode promises to deliver essential insights for any parent seeking a healthier approach to raising their children. Remember, this isn’t just about parenting – it’s also about understanding ourselves better.

I’m Dr Jo Mueller, and I’m a Clinical Psychologist on a crusade to help as many parents as I can feel more confident in parenting your child in a human, imperfect way. Find out more about me and The Guilty Parent Club here.

Music credit: Joseph McDade