Katie Clark (she/her) is a public librarian, an aunt of ten, and a queer community builder. After giving up on ever finding an sexual identity that fit, she found out asexuality existed at age 32, and believes that more openness about queer identities when she was young would have changed her life. There’s a special place in her heart for anyone recognizing and embracing their queerness later in life.

In this interview, Katie discusses her asexual and aromantic identities, what those can teach us about intimacy and love, as well as her later in life autism diagnosis.

To connect with Katie, please consider following her on Bluesky (katiec1212.bsly.social) or emailing her ([email protected]). To connect with Belong Fox Valley, see their website. For more information on gender detachment, see this article.

Terms used in this interview that might not be familiar to all listeners are: AFAB (assigned female at birth; this includes trans men, nonbinary folk, and cis women, among others), ace (short for asexual; other phrases include ace-spec, meaning ace spectrum, as asexuality, like many other manifestations of sexuality, exists on a spectrum), relationship anarchy (a good resource is Dean Spade’s new book Love in a F’cked up World), relationship smorgasbord, and masking (a term used by people with autism in reference to how they might consciously or unconsciously modify their behaviors to closer align with ‘neurotypical’ individuals). For more information about the practice of and training for certified sexuality educators and sexuality counselors, see AASECT (Allison is listed there).

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If you are interested in more book recommendations, please see Allison’s bookshop on Bookshop.org Purchasing books through Bookshop offers greater support to authors as well as curators, such as Allison. Allison reads over 150 books a year, mostly nonfiction, and many of these books are phenomenal resources for common life considerations and needs, such as meaning and relationships. Books included in Allison’s shop address asexuality and relationship anarchy.

*Please note that the opinions and experiences of those interviewed in this podcast are not necessarily the opinions and experiences of the interviewer. One of the intents of this podcast is to interview a variety of people with a variety of experiences and opinions.*

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