Hey friend,

Can we just… pause for a second?Because this week is A LOT. And nobody really says that out loud.

We all sort of walk around pretending we’re fine. We’re cooking, hosting, cleaning, planning, showing up for everybody…but on the inside? We’re exhausted. Or overwhelmed. Or just trying not to cry in the grocery store aisle because that was the wrong brand of whipped cream.

You know what I mean.

Christmas week has this special mix of magic + pressure that hits women especially hard.We’re expected to be joyful, present, emotionally available, organized, calm, generous, thoughtful, and somehow still look like a supermodel in pictures.

And maybe you’re really trying, but you’re also really tired. I know I am.

So here’s what I want to say to you, from one woman to another:

You don’t have to be everything this week.You really, truly don’t.

If you’re not overflowing with cheer — that’s okay.If you’re overstimulated — also okay.If you wish the whole holiday came with a “pause” button — totally normal.If you’re carrying more mental load than anyone realizes — I see you.

You’re human.And this week asks a lot of humans, especially women.

So before you push yourself into another round of “let me make everything perfect,” I want you to ask yourself one simple question:

“What do I need this week?”

Not what the family needs.Not what people expect.Not what you always do because “that’s just your role.”

What do you need?

A nap?Some quiet?Help with cooking?A minute alone in your bedroom where nobody is allowed to knock?Permission to not hold everything together?

Whatever your answer is, it’s valid.And honestly… it might be overdue.

And while we’re here, let me take another weight off your shoulders:

You do not have to figure out your life before the new year.

Seriously.You don’t need a color-coded plan for 2026. Well, maybe you don’t NEED one, but you WANT one and that’s totally okay. You don’t need a list of goals or a word of the year or any of that.You don’t have to “finish strong.”You’re allowed to finish… gently.

Clarity comes when you’re rested, not when you pressure yourself into it.

So let this week be soft.Let it be enough.Let it be imperfect but honest.Let it be whatever your energy can hold.

And before I go, I want to tell you something we don’t hear enough:

I’m proud of you.For how you’ve carried yourself this year.For the things nobody knows about.For showing up when you didn’t feel like it.For trying — even when it felt like too much.

I’m grateful you’re here with me.And I’m excited to walk into 2026 with you. We can walk slow, steady, aligned, and on your terms. Or if you get rested and want to run into 2026 screaming, “Hell Yes!”. I’m here for that too.

Take care of yourself this week, okay?You deserve that.Happy Holidays!

With love,Jenny

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