This week’s episode is a little different.

I sat down with my friend James Oliver Jr., founder of Kabila, and this is one of the more honest conversations I’ve had on the podcast.

James and I go back a bit. I had the chance to contribute a chapter to his book Burn Bright, Not Out, which focuses on founder mental health. That work is personal for him, and this conversation really shows why.

We talk about his journey from building startups to raising a fund, and ultimately making the decision to pause that fundraise.

Not because he couldn’t do it.

Not because the opportunity wasn’t there.

But because he could feel what it was doing to him.

That’s not a story we hear often in venture.

We spend a lot of time talking about pushing through. This is a conversation about knowing when not to.

We get into:

• Why founder mental health became James’s life’s work

• The reality that none of it is personal, and all of it is personal at the same time

• The emotional weight of raising a fund as a solo GP

• The added burden many overlooked founders and managers carry

• And what it looks like to choose the long game over short-term validation

There’s a moment where we talk about the paradox:

You are your startup.

You are not your startup.

Holding both of those at the same time is hard. And most people don’t talk about it.

For me, this episode is a reminder that venture is still a people business. If we care about outcomes, we should care about the people doing the building.

Not every GP story ends in a fund.

Some of them pause.

Some of them redirect.

Some of them choose to protect something more important.

Really grateful to James for coming on and being as open as he was.

00:00 – Intro and why this conversation matters

Why this episode feels different and why James was the right person to have it with

02:00 – The origin story: startup failure and mental health

James shares the story of his first company, personal challenges, and how that shaped his focus on mental health

08:30 – Founder mental health is not theoretical

The reality behind the “72% of founders struggle” stat and why most people still don’t talk about it

14:00 – “You are your startup. You are not your startup.”

The paradox every founder and GP lives with and why it’s harder than it sounds

19:30 – The GP journey and the weight of fundraising

What it actually feels like to raise a fund as a solo GP and hear “no” repeatedly

24:00 – The decision to pause Kabila Ventures

Recognizing the signs, protecting mental health, and choosing to stop before it becomes destructive

29:30 – Overlooked founders and invisible pressure

Why some founders and emerging managers carry a heavier burden and how that impacts mental health

34:30 – Therapy, self-awareness, and doing something

Practical ways founders can start taking care of their mental health without overcomplicating it

39:00 – Burn Bright, Not Out and the broader mission

The book, the nonprofit, and why this is bigger than one conversation

43:00 – What comes next

James on the long game, returning to venture when the time is right, and building sustainably

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