How much of who I am today is really me—and how much of it did I become because I was trying to protect myself? 🤍

This became very real for me when I looked through old pictures of my daughters. I could see how much I loved them, but I could also see the anger, hurt, and disappointment I was still carrying from my own childhood.

It made me realize something: sometimes the experience ends, but the way we learned to live because of it doesn’t.

We get betrayed, and we struggle to trust. We get criticized, and we become our own worst critic. We feel rejected, and we start people-pleasing or proving our worth. We get hurt, and we build walls.

After a while, we may start believing, “This is just who I am.”

But is it?

In Episode 120 of Baggage Be-Gone: Healing Hearts and Minds, I’m talking about the hidden cost of anger and resentment—not only how they make us feel, but how old emotional pain can quietly influence our relationships, trust, overthinking, perfectionism, need for control, and the decisions we make today.

I’ll also share a question I’m learning to ask myself:

How much of the way you’re living right now is really you—and how much is protection you no longer need?

✨ What is motivating me right now—love or fear?

Choosing love doesn’t mean ignoring red flags or letting people walk all over us. Sometimes love says no. Sometimes it sets a boundary. Sometimes it walks away. And sometimes it means allowing someone to be disappointed without abandoning ourselves to make them happy.

For me, forgiveness is not saying what happened was okay. It’s being able to say:

“I don’t want what happened to continue deciding who I have to be.”

Maybe healing isn’t about becoming someone new. Maybe it’s about putting down enough of the fear, resentment, proving, and protection to come home to the authentic person God created you to be. 🙏✨❤️

🎧 Watch or listen to Episode 120 of Baggage Be-Gone: Healing Hearts and Minds.

📲 If you’re ready to go deeper, explore my Baggage Be-Gone Forgiveness Journey, created to help you understand what you’re still carrying, recognize the patterns that grew from it, and begin letting go.

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With love,
Tammy Machmali 🤍

If you have been trying to force forgiveness and it has not worked, this is the missing piece.

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With gratitude, Tammy Machmali

Certified Hypnotherapist | Subconscious Healing Practitioner | Creator of the Baggage Be-Gone Method

Disclaimer: This content is provided for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or replace professional medical, psychological, or mental health care. If you are experiencing significant emotional distress or a mental health crisis, please seek support from a qualified healthcare professional.