In this powerful and heartfelt episode, I sit down with licensed therapist and author Ameshia Arthur to unpack her new book, You Are Not Selfish (available on Amazon) — a love letter to Black women everywhere.

Together, we dive into what it really means to center yourself in a world that constantly tells you not to. Ameshia shares her personal healing journey, growing up with a revolutionary mother in Oakland, and how the lessons of care, community, and self-prioritization led her to create work that challenges generational expectations.

This episode is for every Black woman who has ever been told she was “too much” or “not enough” — for those carrying the weight of community, children, and change-making while being told to rest only once the fight is over.

You’ll hear:

Why the idea of being “selfish” is radical, necessary, and overdue

How unlearning begins with allowing ourselves to take up space

The deep tension between care for community and care for self

And why reclaiming softness isn’t weakness, but wisdom

Whether you’re a quiet observer, a fierce advocate, or somewhere in between, this episode is your reminder that wholeness is not a reward — it’s your right.