Ever peed yourself on the M1? No? Lucky You. But if you’ve ever dealt with a body that won’t behave, a brain that won’t shut up, or a world that thinks you need to ”look” disabled to get support… this will be a breath of fresh air… cos were talking about it… All of it! 

Whether you’ve lived it or never even thought about it – you need to hear this!

I’m joined by Stacey Denyer – ex-RAF, Invictus Games athlete, ADHD-er, MS warrior, founder of At Ease inclusion, Female Veterans Transformation Programme Communications & Engagement Officer and bladder-challenged badass. Together we’re diving headfirst into the messy, unspoken realities of chronic illness, hidden disability, and why pretending to be fine is doing us all in.

What we cover:

• Why Stacey ignored early MS symptoms (and why lots of us would’ve done the same)

• How fatigue, nerve pain and bladder urgency affect everyday life

• The not-so-fun overlap between MS and ADHD (and how Stacey makes it work)

• What people think MS looks like vs what it actually is

• Getting diagnosed in the forces, and what that did to her career

• How she went from that diagnosis to representing Team UK at Invictus

• Learning to say no (even to No.10 Downing Street)

• Planning your energy like you’d plan your money – and what happens if you don’t

“An hour is 4% of your day. You can use it to get better – or to have a nap. Both count.”

Resources mentioned:

• Spoon Theory by Christine Miserandino– have a watch and look it up, it’s a game-changer

• Everybody Moves – A brilliant directory for finding inclusive sports near you, whatever your needs.

• Amantadine (NHS overview) – A med Stacey uses for MS fatigue that’s also helped with her ADHD. (Not medical advice – just her lived experience. Always speak to your GP.)

• Kadeena Cox – Paralympian, MS advocate, and all-round powerhouse proving MS doesn’t have a single look.

• The IMHub – because no one should have to carry this stuff on their own. Not MS. Not ADHD. Not the constant juggling act of being human.