Some families save a seat for the person who did the harm, then rush the person who is still healing. And sometimes we put that pressure on ourselves.

In the second and final part of Faith After Fire: Love, Lust & Letting Go, I talk with licensed marriage and family therapist Adrianne Wagner about people who think you should be over it already. After learning my uncle hurt other family members, I wondered whether speaking sooner could have protected them. We talk about what to do with that guilt and why compassion belongs in the conversation.

We also answer a listener who asks about forgiving a mother who keeps belittling her. What does a boundary sound like when you still want to love someone?

Content note: This episode discusses childhood sexual abuse and violent loss without graphic detail. Please take the space you need as you listen.

Scripture: Colossians 3:12. Word of the Week: COMPASSION. Listener challenge: Choose one boundary you can practice this week. Let a call go to voicemail until you’re ready, or say, “I can talk when we can speak respectfully.”

Kingdom Artist: Jackie Hill Perry. Song of the Week: “Glory (The End)” from Blameless. The podcast edition does not contain the full songs; hear the complete ICU Radio 97.3 replay with Jackie Hill Perry’s music at https://www.mixcloud.com/RRWSPODCAST/.

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00:00 No Deadline on My Healing
00:46 Welcome to Part 2
02:14 When Family Pushes You to Move On
03:26 We Can Grieve the Same Loss Differently
05:03 Self-Love Means Knowing What You Need
06:16 The Guilt I Carried After Forgiving
07:25 Forgiveness or Avoidance?
08:11 Listener Question: When Mom Belittles You
10:50 Protecting Your Peace with Family
12:50 Compassion for Yourself, Too
13:35 Talking to Myself Like I Believe It
15:52 One Boundary to Practice This Week
17:56 Closing: “Glory (The End)”