Redesign Yourself Beyond Betrayal
Redesign Yourself Beyond Betrayal
Podcast Description
In the words of Bessel Van Der Kolk, “Imagination gives us the opportunity to envision new possibilities—it is an essential launchpad for making our hopes come true.”
When there’s a rupture in your relationship due to your partner’s sex and porn addiction, it’s natural to question not only who your partner is but also who you are. This kind of betrayal can deeply shake your sense of self, leaving you wondering how to move forward.
In relationships, we form a connection that becomes its own entity. While you are two individuals, your coupleship creates a bond of trust, intimacy, and shared dreams. When that bond is broken by sexual betrayal, it’s like being torn away from part of yourself. To heal, you must rediscover who you are, apart from that relationship, and find new ways to feel safe and whole again. And in that process, the dreams you once held may need to evolve into something different.
This is where your healing journey begins—whether you choose to stay in your relationship or move on. In my podcast, Redesign Yourself Beyond Betrayal, we explore how to use design thinking tools to turn trauma into an opportunity for growth. You’ll be given inspiration on how to tap into your imagination, take creative risks, and redesign your life through small, intentional steps.
In lively interviews you’ll learn about the importance of empathizing with your emotions and needs, to aid yourself in understanding what you truly want and deserve in life. You’ll hear discussions with other betrayed partners about the importance of defining goals for healing, identifying the core areas where trust, love, and a sense of self need to be rebuilt. You’ll see how play can be used to ideate—allowing yourself to imagine new possibilities for your future, even ones you hadn’t considered before.
And you’ll see prototyping and testing can be done by taking small, manageable steps to bring your ideas to life. Even what you can see as a failure when trying something new is just a learning experience and an opportunity to iterate. Healing is a process of continuous learning, and you’ll discover that it’s okay to adjust and refine your path along the way.
My hope for you is that if you’re in a place where you feel you could use a redesign, that you find some nuggets of wisdom in this podcast that will help you rediscover the vibrant, resilient woman within.
You can do this! And we’re in this together.
Lorna
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In Redesign Yourself Beyond Betrayal Lorna Nakell tackles issues relating to being a betrayed partner with the goal of stepping into post traumatic growth where women use creativity to redesign themselves and shift to a state of thriving beyond betrayal. Hear stories from Lorna’s personal journey to reclaim herself through creativity and movement, meet respected experts in the subject of betrayal trauma, listen to other women tell their betrayal stories and share their achievements, and learn what it takes to stay together after betrayal from Lorna a...
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The podcast addresses topics such as betrayal trauma, healing strategies, creativity, and personal growth, featuring episodes that explore the emotional impacts of betrayal, the importance of empathy and self-discovery, and how to use design thinking for personal reinvention.
In the words of Bessel Van Der Kolk, “Imagination gives us the opportunity to envision new possibilities—it is an essential launchpad for making our hopes come true.”
When there’s a rupture in your relationship due to your partner’s sex and porn addiction, it’s natural to question not only who your partner is but also who you are. This kind of betrayal can deeply shake your sense of self, leaving you wondering how to move forward.
In relationships, we form a connection that becomes its own entity. While you are two individuals, your coupleship creates a bond of trust, intimacy, and shared dreams. When that bond is broken by sexual betrayal, it’s like being torn away from part of yourself. To heal, you must rediscover who you are, apart from that relationship, and find new ways to feel safe and whole again. And in that process, the dreams you once held may need to evolve into something different.
This is where your healing journey begins—whether you choose to stay in your relationship or move on. In my podcast, Redesign Yourself Beyond Betrayal, we explore how to use design thinking tools to turn trauma into an opportunity for growth. You’ll be given inspiration on how to tap into your imagination, take creative risks, and redesign your life through small, intentional steps.
In lively interviews you’ll learn about the importance of empathizing with your emotions and needs, to aid yourself in understanding what you truly want and deserve in life. You’ll hear discussions with other betrayed partners about the importance of defining goals for healing, identifying the core areas where trust, love, and a sense of self need to be rebuilt. You’ll see how play can be used to ideate—allowing yourself to imagine new possibilities for your future, even ones you hadn’t considered before.
And you’ll see prototyping and testing can be done by taking small, manageable steps to bring your ideas to life. Even what you can see as a failure when trying something new is just a learning experience and an opportunity to iterate. Healing is a process of continuous learning, and you’ll discover that it’s okay to adjust and refine your path along the way.
My hope for you is that if you’re in a place where you feel you could use a redesign, that you find some nuggets of wisdom in this podcast that will help you rediscover the vibrant, resilient woman within.
You can do this! And we’re in this together.
Lorna
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In Redesign Yourself Beyond Betrayal Lorna Nakell tackles issues relating to being a betrayed partner with the goal of stepping into post traumatic growth where women use creativity to redesign themselves and shift to a state of thriving beyond betrayal. Hear stories from Lorna’s personal journey to reclaim herself through creativity and movement, meet respected experts in the subject of betrayal trauma, listen to other women tell their betrayal stories and share their achievements, and learn what it takes to stay together after betrayal from Lorna and her husband.
Lorna is the author of I Am Reclaiming Me: A Betrayed Partner’s Daily Practice Journal for Women, the co-creator of Coupleship: Activity Cards for Reestablishing Connection After Sexual Betrayal, the host of the podcast I Am My Passion Project, and founder of Womanhouse. She has been healing from betrayal trauma since 2022. And, is currently living the “recovery lifestyle” with her husband Noah who has been using his creativity to redesign himself as he heals from sex addiction.
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Welcome to part two of Nolo 2.0. In this episode, I’m joined by my husband Noah for an honest conversation about our journey of healing after betrayal. We know how rare it is to find examples of both the betrayer and the betrayed sharing their story together, and we hope this episode provides encouragement and insight for others navigating similar challenges.
We discuss the difficult realities of betrayal and addiction, the role of toxic shame, and how patriarchal systems contribute to harmful behaviors. We also share strategies for recovery, tips for healing through the holidays, and what it takes to move forward as individuals and as a couple.
Topics Covered:
- Some of our most recent challenges in healing.
- Strategies Noah uses to help Lorna with triggers.
- How Noah’s focus on what’s important in life has changed since recovery.
- Noah’s advice for men still struggling on their journey of recovery from sex addiction.
- Noah’s questions for Lorna regarding her healing process.
- Noah’s advice for couples recovering from betrayal trauma.
Why This Episode Matters:
- It’s essential to shed light on the topic of sex and porn addiction in order to inspire change.
- By sharing our journey, we hope to show other couples that healing is possible—even after deep hurt.
Resources Mentioned:
Help. Her. Heal. by Carol Juergensen Sheets
Coupleship: Activity Cards for Reestablishing Connection after Sexual Betrayalby Lorna Nakell and Noah Nakell
“An Ordinary Beautiful Marriage,” Reflections of Life
Purchase: I Am Reclaiming Me: A Betrayed Partner’s Daily Practice Journal for Women by Lorna Nakell or Coupleship: Activity Cards for Reestablishing Connection after Sexual Betrayal.
Read more about betrayal trauma and feminist issues.
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