If you’ve ever been praised at work and lost at home, you’re not alone. My good friend and guest on today’s episode is Paul Coleman, who thought “providing” was enough for his family… until conflicts, distance, and a daughter’s simple note exposed the truth: true connection with loved ones was a skill and he was lacking in it.

Paul is a former professional athlete and top 1% California real estate agent, husband, and father to four. Over two years, he has rebuilt his inner world – finally facing childhood wounds he swore he had dealt with already, learning emotional safety for himself and how to create that for others, and choosing presence over performance. In this episode, he shares the exact steps that changed how he shows up for his family differently, because what he believed was “showing up” wasn’t working.

You’ll Hear

• Why “man up” works- until it absolutely doesn’t

• The household red flags that launched his healing journey

• The book that unlocked his reactivity as a father and partner (“Parenting from the Inside Out”)

• How reframing his origin story (and writing to his estranged father) melted decades of anger

• Emotional safety 101: presence, regulation, and not mirroring your partner’s mood

• The 6-year-old’s note that reoriented his entire approach to love

• How to stop fixing and start holding (and why it changes everything)

• Building brotherhood: why men’s groups accelerate growth

• Practical boundaries when hormones, stress, and history collide

Walk away with a clear picture of what emotional safety looks like in practice from a man’s perspective, how to become the grounded “rock” your partner and kids can lean on, and why presence… NOT performance creates lasting connection.

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