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A bagel, a backache, and a bold claim: attention is the real love language. We kick off the new year by setting a concrete fitness goal and running straight into the toughest part—dessert. It’s not just about calories; it’s about ritual, comfort, and why “healthy” swaps flop when they miss the itch you’re trying to scratch. That same theme of attention shows up in dating, where a 30‑minute drive somehow becomes a bill for dinner, tickets, and a bed. We unpack entitlement, first‑date rules that keep you safe, and how to spot a walking red flag before you’re stuck cleaning up the mess.

In the middle of all that, we celebrate a quiet win: 45 countries and 300+ cities tuning in. It didn’t happen by accident. Consistency, encore episodes, and simple systems beat perfection every time, especially when ADHD and autistic traits shape how we plan, remember, and communicate. Memory gaps aren’t laziness—they’re nervous systems doing triage—so we build structures that let us be ourselves and still deliver.

Then we put the Bird Theory to the test. Send “I saw a bird today,” and watch how someone answers. Do they ask what kind? Where? Why it mattered? Curiosity is a micro‑green flag you can feel. We also draw a clean line between love bombing and being truly spoiled. Fireworks fade; rhythm lasts. Thoughtful acts without strings feel different from grand gestures that vanish after the chase. And yes, we finally explain why winking is a communication nightmare for some of us—mixed signals are noise, not romance.

If you’re rethinking who gets your time, your energy, and your stories, you’ll feel seen. Press play, share this with a friend who deserves better dates, and tell us: what reply to “I saw a bird today” wins you over? Subscribe, leave a quick review, and drop your favorite micro‑green flags—we’ll read the best ones on air.

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